The podcast for women navigating the raw, confusing, lonely aftermath of narcissistic abuse and emotional control.I'm Erika Leon, trauma-informed Abuse Recovery coach, mom of five, and creator of the Six Keys to Unfu*kwithable.I have walked thousands of women through the part after the leaving where the adrenaline fades, the grief hits, and the world really wants you to just move on.If you are picking up the pieces, questioning everything, and trying to remember who the fuck you were before you were so carefully erased, you are in the right place.
Latest episodes
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41 min
43 | What If You Don't Want To Be The Bigger Person
“Be the bigger person.”“Take the high road.”“Don’t be bitter.”“Think of the children.”Sometimes these phrases are genuinely useful. Sometimes they’re another way of telling the per…
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51 min
42 | When Your Crisis Creates An Invisible Contract
Sometimes the people who help us through our hardest seasons become incredibly important to us. They show up when we're falling apart, listen to the same story for the hundredth ti…
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31 min
41 | Learning to Love What's Missing
Have you ever finally gotten some peace and somehow felt... weird about it?After living through criticism, control, emotional volatility, or constantly having to monitor someone el…
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34 min
40 | The Day You Realize You Aren't Waiting Anymore
There’s a stage of recovery I don’t think we talk about enough.It’s not the leaving. It’s not the boundaries. It’s not understanding what happened or learning to trust yourself aga…
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42 min
39 | When You Don't Recognize Yourself Anymore
“I don’t know who I am anymore.”It’s something I hear from women all the time after leaving a relationship - especially after years of narcissistic abuse, emotional control, or sim…
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34 min
38 | The Addiction to Self-Improvement After Emotional Abuse
What if your self-improvement journey has quietly become another way of telling yourself you’re not enough?I’ve noticed how easy it is to turn healing and personal growth into anot…
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34 min
37 | Stop Earning Love: Redefine Your Worth
What if you've spent years trying to become the version of yourself you think is easiest to love?I think a lot of women would say they don't believe love has to be earned.But then…
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27 min
36 | Why Rest Feels Wrong, Even When You're Exhausted...
Have you ever finally sat down… only to get back up again 30 seconds later? Why does rest feel wrong when you're completely fucking exhausted?And even when you do sit down, your bo…
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34 min
35 | Why Do You Replay Conversations in Your Head?
Why do you replay conversations in your head long after they’re over?You know the drill.Three days later, you’re in the shower, driving, folding laundry or making dinner - and sudd…
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28 min
34 | Why Small Decisions Feel So Overwhelming After Narcissistic Abuse
Have you ever spent more time choosing a coffee, a shampoo, or a paint color than you did making one of the biggest decisions of your life?If you've left a controlling, manipulativ…
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33 min
33 | The Urge to Explain Yourself (Even When You Don't Need To)
Have you ever noticed how saying a simple "No, I can't make it" somehow turns into a five-minute explanation?You start listing your schedule, apologizing, justifying your decision,…
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24 min
32 | When Healing Becomes Another Place To Hide
Can healing ever become a way of avoiding life?It sounds like a strange question... but if you've been reading all the books, listening to every podcast, taking every course, journ…
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29 min
31 | The Guilt of Being Happy Again After Narcissistic Abuse
Have you ever caught yourself laughing, enjoying a peaceful day, or realizing you hadn't thought about your ex for hours... only to be hit by an unexpected wave of guilt?If you've…
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31 min
30 | Why You Can't Just "Let It Go" - Let's Talk About Anger
You escaped the relationship. You survived the chaos. So why are you suddenly so angry?If you've found yourself feeling unexpectedly furious months or even years after leaving a na…
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19 min
29 | Why Healing After Abuse Takes Longer Than You Think
How long should healing take after narcissistic abuse? What if you're still thinking about it years later?If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "I should be over this by now," t…
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22 min
28 | Why You Feel Behind in Life After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you ever look around and feel like everyone else got the life you were supposed to have?The stable relationship. The career. The home. The confidence. The clear direction.Meanwh…
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16 min
27 | Why Healing Doesn't Feel the Way You Expected
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I seem okay on the outside... but inside I'm still struggling"?After narcissistic abuse, emotional control, betrayal, or a high-conflict se…
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12 min
26 | The 'Was it really that bad?" Thought Spiral..
One of the most confusing parts of recovery after narcissistic abuse or coercive control is the moment you catch yourself wondering:"Was it really that bad?"In this episode of The…
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15 min
25 | Dating as a Practice Ground for Self-Trust
Dating after narcissistic abuse or coercive control can feel less like excitement… and more like a full-blown survival exam.In this episode, I’m talking about why dating after abus…
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18 min
24 | The “Oh Hell No” Phase of Healing: When All You See are Red Flags
After narcissistic abuse or coercive control, there’s a phase nobody really talks about enough: the moment you go from missing red flags… to seeing them absolutely everywhere.In th…