Hosted by Bill Eddy, LCSW, Esq. and Megan Hunter, MBA, It’s All Your Fault! High Conflict People explores the five types of people who can ruin your life—people with high conflict personalities and how they weave themselves into our lives in romance, at work, next door, at school, places of worship, and just about everywhere, causing chaos, exhaustion, and dread for everyone else. They are the most difficult of difficult people — some would say they’re toxic. Without them, tv shows, movies, and the news would be boring, but who wants to live that way in your own life! H...
Latest episodes
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40 min
When Conflict Makes You Sick: How Stress Harms the Body with Dr. Sharon Stills
High conflict relationships can make you sick. Dr. Sharon Stills, a naturopathic medical doctor, explains what chronic stress does to your body.Megan Hunter, MBA, co-founder of the…
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33 min
Does a Mental Health Diagnosis Mean a Lighter Sentence?
Should a mental health diagnosis mean a lighter sentence for a serious crime? In high conflict cases, the answer depends on whether someone is out of touch with reality or has a pe…
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41 min
Stop Arguing About the Past: The SWYP Method
High conflict arguments follow a script: relitigate the past, assign blame, get nowhere.Bill Eddy, LCSW, JD, and Megan Hunter, MBA, introduce SWYP, a three-step method for turning…
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1 h 00
Two Ways to Handle One High Conflict Case with Dr. Anthony Mazzella
When someone in a high conflict relationship insists their partner is entirely uncaring, is that the whole truth — or a sign of something else going on underneath? This episode put…
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37 min
Worth Repeating: Protecting Your Job When Home Life Turns High Conflict
In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan tackle a version of high conflict that doesn't always get airtime: what happens when the conflict isn't at work, but follo…
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39 min
Worth Repeating: Why Some People Go Zero to Sixty with Anger (And Others Don't)
One of our favorite deep dives, revisited: why do some people go from calm to enraged in seconds flat, while others barely flinch? Bill and Megan dig into the science — and it migh…
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45 min
Worth Repeating: A Retired Judge's Playbook for Family Court Success
In this classic episode from the archives, Bill and Megan sit down with retired Judge Bruce R. Cohen, who spent 24 years as a family law attorney and nearly 20 years on the bench i…
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32 min
Worth Repeating: Parental Alienation, False Abuse Claims, and When to Stop Fighting in Family Court
One of our most-asked-about topics, revisited: two listeners write in about parental alienation and when to stop fighting in family court. Bill and Megan's answers hold up just as…
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34 min
From Case-by-Case to Conflict-Smart: High Conflict at Work, Part 4 of 4
High conflict behavior at work rarely stays contained to one person or one incident — it spreads across teams, drains HR's time, and quietly drives turnover and burnout long before…
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41 min
From Reacting to Responding: High Conflict at Work, Part 3 of 4
High conflict behavior doesn't just disrupt your team—it follows leaders home, costs organizations hundreds of thousands of dollars, and gets worse when managers react without a pl…
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38 min
What HR Keeps Missing: High Conflict at Work, Part 2 of 4
High conflict at work rarely announces itself. By the time it becomes a formal HR complaint or a leadership crisis, the patterns were visible much earlier—and the tools most organi…
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35 min
Why Workplace Conflict Is Surging: High Conflict at Work, Part 1 of 4
Workplace conflict is costing US businesses $359 billion a year—and behind a disproportionate share of that damage is high conflict behavior: the kind that ignores limits, escalate…
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28 min
Accepting the Limits of a High Conflict Relationship
High conflict relationships can leave you grieving something most people don't recognize as a real loss — not just the person, but the relationship you always hoped you could have.…
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33 min
How to Leave a High Conflict Relationship Without Escalating
Fear of retaliation keeps many people trapped in high conflict relationships long after they know they need to leave. Emotional explosions, smear campaigns, threats involving child…
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36 min
How Validation Calms the Brain: The Science of EAR Statements
When someone in a high conflict situation gets upset, the instinct is to explain, correct, or reason with them — and that almost always makes things worse. The reason isn't a myste…
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31 min
When It's Not Your Fault: Blame, Backlash, and Setting Limits
When a high conflict person says it's all your fault, most reasonable people do something predictable — they start wondering what they did wrong. That instinct toward self-reflecti…
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29 min
When No One Believes You About High Conflict
High conflict cases have a well-documented credibility problem: the person with high conflict personality traits walks into the lawyer’s office, the HR department, or the courtroom…
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32 min
When Addiction Meets Custody: Building a Plan That Holds, Part 2
When addiction and high conflict personality traits both show up in a custody case, the usual advice stops working. Vague parenting plans become weapons. Standard timelines get exp…
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36 min
When Addiction and Antisocial Behavior Collide in Custody
High conflict custody cases are hard enough—but when one parent also demonstrates antisocial personality traits alongside addiction and a pattern of long-term deception, standard p…
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33 min
Why Your Child Absorbs Your Emotions
In high conflict divorce, children don’t just witness a parent’s distress—they absorb it, often without knowing where the feeling is coming from. Bill Eddy and Megan Hunter explain…