Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright offer support, life management strategies, and time and technology tips, dedicated to anyone looking to take control while living with ADHD.
Latest episodes
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53 min
Reading, Audiobooks, and the ADHD Comprehension Problem with Misty Stinnett
Most of us have a stack of self-help books we fully intend to get to. Our friend Misty Stinnett, co-host of Go Help Yourself, has read hundreds of them for her show, and she joins…
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46 min
Plant Yourself in the Right Garden: Environment as Strategy
Last season, Dr. Kathleen Nadeau described a lot of ADHD struggle as a planting problem, and we've been thinking about it a bunch. This episode is about environment, and how much o…
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39 min
The Unreliable Narrator: Self-Observation for ADHD
You'd swear you sent that email. You can picture yourself writing it. And then you find it, unsent, still marked unread.This week, Pete and Nikki borrow the literary idea of the un…
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25 min
The “Fine” Mask
You say it a dozen times a day. Somebody asks how you're doing, and before you've had a chance to check, you've already said you're … fine.In this conversation, we pick up a thread…
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41 min
Approach Motivation, Round Two with Ari Tuckman, PsyD
Are you doing the thing because of what you'll get, or because of what you're afraid of? Both get the task done. Only one of them is sustainable.This week, Dr. Ari Tuckman returns…
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42 min
Misattunement: The Through-Line of ADHD Relationships with Dr. Dodge Rea
Last time Dr. Dodge Rea was here, we set up a conversation in two parts and only got through one of them. This week we finish it, and the half we left hanging turns out to be the t…
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34 min
What Recovery Actually Looks Like (Beyond Sleep)
Rest, relaxation, recuperation. Three words we reach for when we're empty, and all three have collapsed into the same meaning: stop doing something. The older meanings point somewh…
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32 min
The “But I Have To…” Trap
You look at the list. You look at the calendar. You already know there isn't enough day for what's on there, and somehow the first thing out of your mouth is still "but I have to."…
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26 min
The Gap Trap!
There's the version of you that exists right now, and the version you're pretty sure you should have become by this point. In this conversation, we get into the space between them,…
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35 min
A Revisit: Breaking Down an ADHD Challenge
We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. In this one, Pete and Nikki put on their detective hats to break down an A…
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36 min
A Revisit: Change Your Vocabulary, Change Your Mindset
We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. In this one, Pete and Nikki dig into the words we use and how much they sh…
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26 min
A Revisit: Celebrating What We Do
We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. The idea takes after Dr. Kurosh Dini's concept of the visit, showing up to…
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47 min
A Revisit: Attacking the Gremlins with Jane Massengill
We're on summer break, so this week is a Revisit: a favorite conversation pulled back out of the archive. The idea takes after Dr. Kurosh Dini's concept of the visit, showing up to…
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28 min
How to Notice Progress Without Measuring It
At the end of the day, when your brain starts tallying everything you didn't finish, where's the credit for everything you did? In the Season 32 finale, we close out the season on…
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27 min
You’re Not Broken. You’re Contextual.
You can lose six hours to the thing that lights you up, then completely stall on a task that takes three minutes. Same brain, different room. In this conversation, Pete and Nikki g…
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49 min
Self-Trust Is a Nervous System Skill with Dr. Tamara Rosier
You can have the perfect planner, the right system, and the best intentions, and still not follow through. It isn't a caring problem. After enough broken promises to yourself, some…
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31 min
Rewriting the Rules You Inherited About Worth
There's a rule most of us signed before we could read it. It decides whether we're worth anything, and it tends to set the same terms for everyone who carries an ADHD brain: you're…
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25 min
What It Means to Be “Good Enough” With ADHD
"Good enough" is a phrase that can land like permission or like an accusation — and for ADHD brains that have spent a lifetime being told we're not trying hard enough, both feeling…
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32 min
Permission Slips You Keep Waiting For
There's a kind of waiting most ADHDers know well — waiting for someone, somewhere, to say it's okay. Okay to rest. Okay to stop masking. Okay to take the accommodation. Okay to wan…
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26 min
Why Advice Stops Working When You’re Tired
We've all been there: someone offers a perfectly reasonable suggestion, and instead of taking it in, you bristle. You're tired. You're cranky. The last thing you want is advice. Th…